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Originally Posted by Petra5ed
Yeah. My husband has seen him twice. My husband didn't tell me he would either time, both times I found out after the fact.
I saw my T today and I couldn't communicate. I had finally gotten to the point of being comfortable. I'm sure it's an overreaction, but I feel like the relationship is compromised. Especially given the needing "to stand up to me" comment.
My husband is completely withdrawn from me. Now instead of my therapy being based on what I say and what happens between us, it feels tainted by all the things I see my husband saying about me. Needless to say my husband and I see things very differently.
Oh and "stand up for himself" is absurd. But of course I never get to stand up for myself without being cast as the b****. I cant even stand up for myself to see the same therapist I've poured years of time and money into.
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You're not overreacting. A therapist's primary duty is to their client, that can't happen if two related parties are in individual therapy, the therapist can't really be in both their corners equally simultaneously.
There's too much risk of confidentiality breaches, no matter how unintentional, and the T can't see you objectively if they have all the subjective feedback from your husband. I really think only one of you should be seeing the therapist, and certainly, you have the claim of most established relationship.