My kids are cool, I agree. It would be one thing if my husband and I were open with each other, but it's not the case. He knows when I go to therapy every week but he will just start seeing my fing therapist without a mention. Since my husband feels he has to assert himself so much we obviously have an adversarial relationship. Personally I think it would be nice if my husband talked to me at all, usually people converse before jumping straight to asserting themselves.