i know i'm pretty blunt in my responses so please don't think i'm saying i think it is easy to deal with all this. it's confusing when there is both good and bad in the T relationship. it makes it easy to explain away the bad and i know you've said your T has helped you. what you're saying here kind of reminds me of what it is like to date someone who is both hot and cold toward you. you never quite know where you stand and it is a bit crazymaking. usually, for me things had to get pretty bad before i finally got it that the person was never going to be consistent and really there for me. that was definitely their issue though and not mine. unfortunately, it really taps into one's unmet needs and gives the sense of always holding out hope for things to work out. the thing is that doesn't happen and you are left in that place of always hoping for it to work out but coming up with a bag half-empty. you deserve a T who is totally professional and not one who is sometimes professional and sometimes not.

so, i think it is accepting that your T has done some things well but also there have been other areas where she really hasn't acted professionally. if it's a very occasional thing for a T to be unprofessional it is one thing but when it is a pattern then that is different. it seems to be a pattern with your T...