TJ your wife likes you a lot and cares for you. All the troubles you have with the ward and nurses and doctors she also gets a piece of. It's amazing you haven't been in an argue until now. Even if you seem to be connecting really well already I think maybe you could connect even better! It seems like this missunderstanding was based on that you didn't tell each other what you really felt about the situation... You weren't lying...but you weren't fully honest either. or thats how I understood it.. :S Talking about what triggers you is a good idea and I can only imagine how difficult it would be for you. Remember to take pauses if it gets too much and take it slowly..you can do it! Also remember that it might get too much for her too...

You should tell her what an amazing support she gives you. How well she handles your emotions and..well..just...I dunno... Just based on what you write in this thread.... she seems amazing!

Honestly can't you let her read a part of this post? It might boost her confidence.