Hi TJ, your wife..............maybe trying to put her thoughts/feelings aside so as not to hurt someone else (you); keeping deep inside the pain, fear, hurt...........she's feeling herself to try to reach out, help, hoping that she's doing the right thing for someone else (you) nevermind herself, trying to put their best interests (as far as she can tell) first, wanting to do everything to make things right for someone (you), caring more about someone else (you) than herself.................now does that remind me of someone??? TJ??!!!
Come on, even though the sense of betrayal is understandable, you know where she's coming from don't you??
So maybe instead of holding onto this as a "problem you're needing to overcome", perhaps see this as a useful insight into how to move things forward. It was a break through in communication, in opening the doors of honesty/openness that bit further between you both.
So use it, and use it to get out there what you need/want to be saying to each other. And help each other understand that bit more. Sounds like you really care about each other and while that's there that's going to be a big help in fine-tuning that communication.

And you!! You walked away and used that space to bring those feelings down!! Instead of letting them build and build and..........,you reigned in some control over them and worked through them!!! And you "bit the bullet" and went home!! Seriously impressive TJ!!! Good on you!!!!



Alison