Yep. I understand what you're saying. I've told him big stuff and he's actually forgotten. That just happened last week and this time I am going to bring it up and tell him it pissed me off that we have talked about this particular thing for the third time and "you" don't remember.

I was with another T long ago and I swear I bored the pants off her. This guy is very present but he can fake it too. He is so controlled it drives me crazy. I said that to him and he disagreed. However, one day I made a comment about how horrible parents can be to their children. He perked up and said "I cannot beleive how YOU grew up"; meaning, he really his paying attention to all I say, even when I think he is not. Sometimes I think he is stunned by some of what I say about my childhoood, but he keeps very cool about it. He has said to me that most people have not gone through what I have experienced. I try to minimize, cuz you can't see any scars; so in my mind it wasn't "that" bad. Wrong, it was really bad. Sorry for the rant. Your concern would be very hard to bring up in session, buy you should try. Times and concerns like this can really enhance the alliance, once it's out in the open and understood.