I have a hard time looking at my therapist though I've gotten a little better about it. I also find it easier to look at him when he's talking than when I am. He doesn't tell me to look at him though, and he once mentioned that when he first went to therapy himself (years and years ago) he memorized all the patterns on the carpet because he couldn't look at his own therapist either. I try to hold his gaze occasionally but I always look away first.

Last week he was looking at me really intently and I said (teasing) "so you're going to stare at me for the whole hour?" His response "well, what's left of 50 minutes."

I love my therapist.

Sidony