Yes, I've experienced it. The only thing that ever worked for me was learning how to better let it roll off my back by using therapies like REBT and CBT. I realized I had cognitive distortions and irrational beliefs that everybody must like me and everybody must treat me well and if I'm nice to people they should be nice to me back -- on and on. I didn't even realize it until I studied cognitive distortions.

http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...bout-them.html

I'm sort of an opinionated, determined -- some say stubborn -- know-it-all kind of person. I research and study damn hard and if other people don't like that about me, too damn bad. Some people do find that quality in me annoying beyond words. I can't really blame them. I know how to study and research and, seeing that I'm older, I have a lot of broad life experience -- like your medical experience -- that other people don't have. I don't know how to fix an engine or play music or fly an airplane, but I can catheterize a blocked bladder, pollard a tree, cook a gourmet meal over a campfire, make a 5 layer wedding cake, install dry wall, get published in an academic journal, talk to winos in the street, dine at the governor's mansion, unblock a clogged drain, calm a panicked animal, test sex workers for HIV, grow an organic orchard and piss off about a thousand people in the process because, you know, people just hate a show-off.

I'm not much willing to change my personality or hide my light under a bushel basket in order to please other people. I realized that I had been unconsciously demanding that other people change to please me and not ever hurt my feelings or do things that made me feel bad. That was really the whole problem.

It sounds as if you might be doing something similar. You're making "should' statements in your mind about how you think your classmates should act toward you and then catastrophizing it into micro-aggression when they act differently than you want them to.

You did great with your grades, it's a wonderful achievement and I'd be feeling happy and proud, too, if I was standing in your shoes. You have every right to feel proud and to post your accomplishment on FB. Well done!

If other people don't want to celebrate with you or congratulate you or even talk to you for a while because they didn't do as well, please stop looking at it as micro-aggression. People just don't like being reminded that someone else did better than they did.

If their actions are micro-aggression, then your action of posting your grades to show how well you did in comparison to your classmates is micro-aggression, too. But it wasn't. You accomplished something. You have the right to celebrate without being called an aggressor. And they have the right to sulk without being called aggressors.

You are not a victim of micro-aggression just because your classmates refuse to celebrate your accomplishments, anymore than they are victims because you did so well.

Enjoy your success. You deserve to feel good about it. Please don't turn this lovely accomplishment into something unpleasant for yourself just because your less successful classmates want to sit in the corner and sulk for a while. They may be feeling rather low about themselves if they didn't do as well as you did. That is not your fault. You did not aggress against them by studying hard and doing well.

Sometimes we just have to accept that other people have feelings too and those feelings may not be in sync with our own, especially if our light is shining bright and theirs happens to be on the dimmer switch at the moment.

I wish you continued success with your studies.