I had exactly the same situation and I believe it to be a betrayal and breech of ethics. When I finally divorced my ex since he had utterly no interest in personal growth he used the T as one of the multitude of ideas he tried to destroy me with since he knew the T was important in my life. He claimed that the T had told him to do all kinds of nasty things to me in the divorce and that he was shocked at how much the T disliked me. In as much as I did some work with this man I now believe that he was a wounded healer who had some outdated ideas about trauma treatment. I will never let that happen to me again.