Hi Denseke,

I just wanted to let you know, I COMPLETELY understand where you are coming from! I just broke up with my boyfriend whose also a complete League of Legends addict (it even made him quit World of Warcraft) and I was a complete toy for him, whenever he felt like I was convenient I was given attention, but I also wasn't allowed to even leave the room or read a book when he was playing without being called rude and *****y. It extended to every part of our relationship. I was just not important. For a while, I put up with it because he finally started fighting his alcohol addiction after he tried to become violent toward me one night (which he did give up, successfully to date), but he refuses to see any other problems with his gaming/electronic addictions and I was such a low priority for him that he was largely verbally abusive to me unless I was doing exactly what he wanted, when he wanted it.

18 months later, I finally broke things off. It was miserable, especially because even before we dated we've been friends for almost a decade, but within a few days, I've felt soo much better and the other people in my life mention how much happier I've been.

It's not something you can help them with. There are other issues they are not willing to face going on in their lives and minds. When a relationship has become that destructive, the why's don't matter. You have to keep yourself healthy and strong first.