My ex's family usually turned her inside out - very toxic for her. If you feel you have the strength and YOU want to do it - give it a try.
I would think about what your expectations may be of the visit - how to prepare and react to the "usual" scenarios that occur.
Last visit to my ex's family was for Christmas - I begged her for us not to go. She felt really strong about it. I promised I would not ask for us to leave early and I would be on my best behavior.
Christmas morning her brother pulled a particular stunt that was usual for his character. She asked to leave immediately.
Even when I hugged her mom goodbye and said I'm sad that we have to leave under these circumstances and that I'm sure if there was an apology from her brother maybe it won't be necessary to leave.
She simply said, "I don't want to make him angry."
I'm shaking my head as I recount this. That was the last Christmas with her family.
I personnally had my dad die in 2005 - never was close - I had little feeling for his death. If we had been close, I probably would have been pretty torn up.
I guess simply said - if you are going to do it - just prepare yourself mentally and pack light.
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