Sorry I haven't replied to everyone but as always your support is greatly appreciated. Things are still slow and when I mention things in regards to the issues, she never changes her answers. She IS trying. Things may not happen as fast as I would like but rome wasn't built in a day. StbGuy I agree I think we have drifted, maybe due to some other reason. But not on my part. I have never changed my wants/needs, the way I treat her etc. I will need to do some digging like you say. She could be suffering herself. But she won't say. ~rider, thanks for the advice and yeah, we all have different sex drives so that is also a factor to take on board. Loophole, I feel for you. Its hard when it happens. The worst is not knowing why. And it can make you feel like there is no point in living. Maybe some of the others advice on here may be of some use to you also. And the Well, thanks for the support. We all need people we can lean on and although I am a stranger you all are prepared to take time out of your day to help out others in need.