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Originally Posted by misskeena
. . . but I feel some animosity from some of my classmates. A few are blatantly ignoring messages/texts right now that I know they've received.
. . .I know that I'm not the only woman to experience girl-on-girl microaggression. While I had lots of friends, we were all pretty geeky--I was never the popular girl in high school and the "in" crowd tended to treat me as though I was invisible. I get that at work as well--I work in a small ER where the staff was tight-knit before I came along, and a few there make it clear that they just aren't interested in making friends with me. . .
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Great topic. It's called "relational aggression", as you may know. Needs a lot more attention IMHO. I've "suffered", too, being a geeky female more focused on tasks, science, etc.
So, what do we do? Accept ourselves, even if/when others don't. That's the geeky/"logical" answer isn't it? But I have been very badly hurt by people who didn't like me or who wanted to derail what I thought, and said directly, was the most important thing to do. So I think we "geeks" need to understand how that works, somehow. It doesn't come naturally to me and right now I don't have much of a clue, just that the topic needs a lot more attention IMHO.