I just talked to my T (whom I haven't been with for about a year because she lives in a county far, far away), and she said she'd had the strongest urge to call me when she got my message.

She pshawed the whole idea that I'd been disrespectful in any way, said the whole thing was clear but unprovable ageism, and the way everyone from the Dean on down falls over themselves to support S. because "he has the twins" and is Mr. Mom while his wife earns a very nice six-figure income as a high-powered executive is another kind of discrimination.

Thank you, Pat and Perna, for pointing this out. I tend to see the log in my own eye, when it's only a splinter, the reverse of the bible parable.