I know how hard it is to "undo" what your parents did to you. I'm still struggling with it and probably always will.

My mother used to stand there and watch while my dad physically abused me. You would think a mother would want to get in the way and protect her child, but I guess she thought I had it coming. She herself abused me, and to this day thinks she's a mother of the year candidate and didn't do anything wrong. She constantly says one thing and does another....she'd jump me about my weight, for instance, and then force food on me.

Parents can do a lot of damage. With patience and a good therapist, you can at least start to overcome it, though. I'm hoping I will be "free" after she dies, but I wonder if even that will solve things. Good luck to all of us with this struggle!

Candy

There used to be a real me, but I had it surgically removed. -- Peter Sellers