((((((((((( SecretGarden )))))))))))))))))



You know I understand the abandonment stuff and how it feels like the floor has disappeared and someone please tell me how do you hang ON???!!

I don't know what your T is up to with his statement that you "never will" let her come visit. I really just don't understand him making that comment. You went to him and expressed concern about letting your friend in... and having her visit. Did he focus on the caring and positive aspects of your friendship? Did he challenge you to picture her visit as warm, fun, comfortable? Did he talk about how to help you make this wonderful opportunity happen and in a way that you could feel good about?

No, he say's you'll never let it happen.

Let's HIM off the hook doesn't it?

I would have been feeling extreme abandonment right at that point!!

grrrr at him. (sorry)

I really think he handled this badly unless there is some kind of therapeutic maneuver behind it all.

Either way, I hope you'll tell him every thing you said here. I think you deserve reassurance from him. Please keep talking about it with him until you are satisfied and at ease. It seems like this is eroding some of your trust with him and that's not going to be helpful.

You aren't a whiner! Discussing when you're depressed and hurting and being open and honest is hard! Not whining!!

I really admire you for your honesty and the way you think things through.



ECHOES