okay... i'm not seeing the inconsistency. i mean... if cast it so that he was trying to communicate what it is that he wants (e.g., to see you both in therapy or not) then I'm seeing a contradiction, but I'd be really very surprised that that was what he was trying to communicate.

sounds to me that he was bouncing off you rather. you didn't think it would be a good idea and so he set out to tell you about all the ways in which you might benefit from it.

you do think it would be a good idea and so he set out to tell you all the possible risks.

why?

because it is part of informed consent / making an informed decision and truth is that there are potential benefits and harms

because yeah, you need to make the desicion. so you can take some credit for things going well and so that you don't lose all faith in your therapist if things go badly.

it needs to be your decision.

i'm wondering whether the good feeling comes from a sense of connection and whether the bad feeling comes from a sense of disconnection (when you feel like he is trying to persuade you do so something he wants you to do but you don't want to talk about it).

could be profitable to discuss this with him.