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It took me a long time to learn that anger, in itself, is not a "good" or "bad" thing. It's what we do with our anger that can be positive or negative. I grew up in a family where no one except my father was allowed to display anger. I used to believe that anger = danger. If my father was angry it was time to run for cover. As an adult my husband was abusive which fed my belief that anger and danger were synonymous.
At the same time I would bottle my own anger until it just exploded out of me. A friend once told me that I scared him when I was angry. That was a real wake up call for me.
Today, after a ton of therapy, I'm able to express my anger appropriately. There are still times when other people's anger unnerves me, but I've learned how to cope.
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