This may revolve around your (and her) definition of sex. Years ago my wife told me that she didn't want to have intercourse anymore because a) she didn't enjoy it and b) wasn't having orgasms, and c) it was painful. In truth, I wasn't enjoying it much myself, because her vagina had never recovered following childbirth. My good right hand gave me better organisms than intercourse did.

Skip forward several years: We have sex every 10 days or so (I have a higher libido, so I masturbate in between times), and both of usually have powerful orgasms, and love the touching and stroking and kissing and....

If more couples could accept that sex does not equal vaginal penetration, but can involve a whole lot else, there probably would be fewer complaints about non-compliance spouses.

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