Hi, Ams3618, and welcome to Psych Central! I am thinking in a sense that you felt raped--at least forced into kisses you didn't want. You just wanted to be a regular friend with him. So, you suffered a loss of a relationship. And that likely hurt.

Evidently he felt rejected when you weren't excited by his plans for you. So, he is trying to get even. I feel sorry for him. Men can be sensitive about the gay issue. I am wondering if he is now living a gay lifestyle and is putting that onto you.

Is there any way you can go to a different church? Perhaps you can tell people what he did years ago. It was not your fault.

Some thoughts, anyway.....