I fully understand that there is more to sex than intercourse but here is my issue and I am sure youll tell me it's my fault and something I need to just ger over it or go away and stop wasting your time. My last marriage was much like this one both after a couple of years wound up being sexless so I have to assume the problem must be me but I will NEVER ask for sex again it either winds up in rejection which feeds the depression or she says yes and it will be a painful act that I will not put somebody through again.