I don't confront him on any of it either because the only way I'd know he doesn't go to work is to say I checked our phone usage on the website and THAT will piss him off and lead him right into "Why did you check? Don't you trust me?" I did catch him a few months ago when I checked his bank account right before I left for work and see he had just made a purchase at a place 30 minutes south of where he was to be. I stayed home that day because I was so pissed off and he came through the door about 15 minutes after he thought I'd be gone. He immediately started lying that there was nobody at work ( a company of over 10,000 people!) so he left and then decided to go have breakfast 30 minutes south of where he works and THEN come home. Yeah because rather than come home you'd go have breakfast at 5AM 30 minutes away?! Then he tells me "Oh I just got a text from my partner and he said he just left too. Riiiight!