Hi JustWantToBeNormal, I'm sorry if you've already tried this one, but do you think it could help if you start with the "just being friends" bit first??
You know, no "dates" just hanging out with people, without even thinking about will we/won't we. That way you're going to really get to know people first, and hopefully feel comfortable with them to the point where you might be thinking............if I wanted a relationship it would/wouldn't be with you.
Because the whole "dating" thing.........a lot of pressure there especially if you're anxious about it all to begin with.
But otherwise...........you only need to let people get as close as you feel comfortable with at the time, and if they're understanding (which anyone would want from a partner anyway!!) they'd be going more at your pace and doing what they could to make you feel more comfortable.
And relationships don't have to be all about intimacy, intimacy, intimacy all the time..........different peoples relationships work on different levels (at different times).........it's about what feels right for you.........and someone who's right for you is going to be on your level.
And you know, why should you have to hide yourself all the time?? The right person should respect you for being you and be there for you regardless.
So maybe if you get to know them/whoever first...........there will be people you can trust/who you can be yourself with/who you can feel better with/about. Just give yourself and them time, hey?

Alison