I agree it's scarey to think about getting close to someone. But at the same time we yearn to be close with someone. Do you think you have anxiety to date from past bad relationships? I had that problem...I got out of a seven year emotionally abusive relationship and was afraid to try again. I decided to just take time to be by myself for almost a year without any dates. Then a friend of mine thru aa wanted to introduce me to someone else in the program. Both the guy and I were both hesitant to meet so it took us three months to finally meet. When he came with my friend to help me move, our eyes met and boy did sparks fly! He helped me clean the house the next day and we went on our first date that night. We became the best of friends and have been inseparable ever since. It's now been over two years and we are madly in love. Try and put yr fears to rest and give it a try. You never know what can happen! It's always a good idea to become friends first tho. I've learned from that lesson all too well. Being intimate with someone until you really know them can turn out badly. The love of yr life is out there waiting for you...put yr fears aside and try to date to see who's out there :-) I wish you luck. Hang in there