[B]Sorry, I was not clear enough! I guess I was too upset to be clear. It is not my daughter who is the addict, it is [B]my grandson. He is 22. He is in 4th month of court-ordered, tough, two-year rehab program. First 3 mos. were inpatient. I have no idea how he is doing or where he is. No way to find out. My daughter does not want to talk to me about him or about anything.

I have been totally cut off and out of their lives by my daughter. She tells me I did nothing wrong, she just needs to NOT have contact with me. This is killing me. We were close. She is my only child. I am divorced and alone. I'm not very interested in having a man in my life, as my choices have been terrible and I'm 73. My best friend is in her last chemo treatment and may die. I have no close friend nearby. I am all alone and trying to keep it together. I have anxiety and some depression. This whole thing seems like a huge, bad joke on me.

My daughter turns to her father's family. Her father is very sick in the head and tried to kill me more than once when I was with him and after I left him. He cannot show affection, is cold and nasty, also drinks, has not remarried but has a married girlfriend, great example. I just don't get it.

I've been to Alanon re my grandson. It was very depressing and negative. I'm told there is nothing I can do at all. Big help!