I am telling myself I am weak/no backbone (and I may be right)....because I haven't acted yet on my relationship with my wife......we have been separated for about 4 years now.......it's kind of come to the time where I need to "fish or cut bait"......being in this limbo is too much, just too much......funny though, she seems to be just fine with it.....she is not upset, like I am, about the unsuredness........but it must be wearing on her too.........I mean, this should not be such a tough decision to make - the choices are work on getting back together or starting divorce process........I don't think deep down in my heart that I really want to move back in with her.....but, the thing is, I was over ther tonight and playing with my 7 to daughter and my 4 yo son........my daughter could probably handle a divorce but not my son......he is so young, so vulnerable.....so sweet.....he would not "get it".....I think he would see it like, "Daddy is leaving us".......the reality is I think I would be more free to be with them (my kids).....but my son just is too little to get it.......God it hurts......I know there is such a thing as "staying together for the kids" and I agree that it's not a great idea - but now that it's me it's different.........I think maybe I'm doing something wrong......what to do, what to do.........if this keeps going on much more I feel like I will implode....