Hi IDM, well let it just go ahead and crumble if it's going to then let other people..........whatever, because sometimes you have no control over certain things..........things happen..........and what really matters right now, is you, OK??
And the way you're feeling!!
Besides if that last straw were to come hope you'd be throwing that over to us to help you cope with it/work through it, hey?? And you know we'd be here for you, right??
So............one day at a time (?) and working on how you're feeling now?.
And maybe when/if you're ready you might want to talk a little more.............?
You're not on your own in this, we're here for you, we care!!

Alison