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Originally Posted by -jimi-
Maybe you need a therapist to move forward. Your posts are about how annoying other people's behaviors are, and yea, I know from myself people do annoy me to no end, but I also know I can never make them do what I want because I'm just me, I can only control me.
If you truly want to do something about a situation you have to make plans (maybe with a therapist) how to change things. Staying at just being annoyed is not good for you. I know some people get into the behavior of complaining about others but then they forgot they need to actually do something too.
Your husband sounds from your other posts like he is emotionally unstable, he is maybe depressed and most likely an alcoholic. If that is the case, he needs help. I know it is very hard to help people who have found their own kind of "help" (alcohol and video games), but maybe you have to show him the way here and tell him where to look for help.
If he really refuses help, then maybe you should distance yourself from him? How about your own mental health, is it better than his? Are you also facing an issue with alcohol? (I'm not trying to be rude here.)
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I just CANNOT confront him! I have no guts and KNOW he will turn it around on me and make me feel like I'm the crazy one! He'll give me all these reasons why the bed is unmade, why there's a dish in the sink how he managed to do all the work on the fire pit in an hour and I will end up questioning 'Well maybe he really DID do all of this after work".
I just can't understand how he is getting away with this from his doctor and his manager! I mean I still don't think he has gone to work in 1 1/2 weeks. He stayed home last Mon-Thurs and then apparently went in Friday, yesterday and today but never did. I had hope that he went in today since I didn't see a call in the phone records to the attendance line, but there has been a text to his manager, a call to the work access line and a call to the doctor's office. between about 7 and 8:30 so I am guessing he is home. He has also been on Facebook quite a bit. I mean he is constantly trying to cover up his lies by conniving his doctor and then he has to connive the company into thinking he's really hurt and then has to go back to the doctor and have him sign paperwork. Its just constant covering his *** to cover his ***! He said yesterday the doctor's office called him (even though I see on his phone that he called them!) and told him that yup it's a ligament injury and he can go to the orthopedist. And how he got the doctor to extend his light duty to two months rather than 1 month. Great so GO TO WORK! You were on light duty for 2 weeks and then got it renewed for a month but you have yet to go in for any of that month and you are worried about getting it extended to 2 months already??!! His next paycheck started on Friday Aug 1 and goes through Thursday Aug 14, which is 2 days from now. He has yet to work any of those days. How is he going to explain having a $0 paycheck to me? Or if he does manage to go to work the next two days have only 2 days on it?? He has $130 of loans from work that get taken out every paycheck, $270 is CS that gets taken out every paycheck and then add to that 2 credit cards and student loans. How does he think any of this is going to get taken care of?? Not to mention his share of the bills which amount to about $1100 a month??