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Originally Posted by shakespeare47
What I see myself doing at times, is creating problems so people around me have to deal with certain problems or issues. Then I can actually watch to see how "normal" people react to certain issues and problems. Can anyone else relate?
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I'm sorry to say this, but I don't like that behavior of creating problems. Its wasting others time and energy, and also you can get a clue of a person who is a giver and people pleaser, so you can rely on him when ever you need or feel low. I was a people pleaser, but now I have a radar for people like you. (nardar dot com)
Sorry if I misunderstood or labeled you falsely.
Please, try to get to the bottom of the reasoning why are you creating problems. Think of what "normal" is for someone else. Think of where would we get if everyone around would only creating a problems.
Also, I hate people who desperately need to evoke a stronger emotional reaction in others. This also drains energy unnecessarily.
One thing in that is in common for all this, is that a person who is creating these problematic situations and evoking strong emotional responses, in fact, is enjoying when someone else is feeling bad, has troubles and problems, so the first person could feel better seeing that there is someone else in worse position than him. That's a kind of a relief that someone suffers more than him.
Of course gaslighting is abuse. Currently I am experiencing it at workplace, but there are some tools for it on the internet.