Not sure where in nevada you are, but if you are anywhere near a place where there is an AA chapter, al anon, or possible spiritual counselling I strongly suggest you ask for it. What you're going thru must be terribly stressful, and painful to you. You need guidance and that can only come from people who know what you are going thru, or have been there themselves...or both.

I would never presume to counsel you on the dynamics of your relationship with your bf, but I do sympathize so much for the hurt your are suffering. I'm not sure that your bf is necessarily 'giving up' although it may look like he is, but no matter what it is, you need to avail yourself of help, for yourself. That, not alcohol will make dealing with this situation possible....words, you already know, are true.

Take care...I'm sending positive, empowering thoughts to you. *hugs*