My T has never said "I love you." But she has talked about having love for me (close enough). My T is very much about love, but she's not the "mushy" "lovey dovey" type. For her, love is defined and not simply a feeling.

I have written my T "I love you", but she has never brought it up. We do however talk about my "attachment" to her, my Pdoc, and people in my past. I think we don't talk about it much because she wants me to accept my feelings; that they are normal and not an "issue". I don't mind so long as she reassures me when I need reassurance.