Well we've figured out on both ends what we need to do to make this work and things have been going better Ive been sober and she's been less critical and I'm no longer seeing my coworker. I did have a fling with her but it has ended the relationship has resumed to just platonic and work related. Anyhow things are getting better I still feel unwanted and feel I depend on that and I don't know really how else to fill that need. But I understand that pregnancy has basically zapped out her own libido so I guess I just have to hang on.
Neither of us planned on having a child. So it's definitely not something we wanted to save a relationship. I knew initially it would hurt our relationship but felt like it was a risk I was willing to make.
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Originally Posted by buzz bee
Time for a good communication session. Not at her place or your place (or home if you live together). Go somewhere and have coffee and discuss feelings and whats going on in the back of your minds. No yelling allowed and no self defense until the other person is talking. No blaming. Make rules. Of course be honest even though it hurts.
There is a root to the problem, its stemming from something. It could have started from something small and worked up to something big. Im guilty of doing this. It builds up and then "BOOM".
This needs to be cleared before lil guy comes into your life. People have babies to make their marriage better, not a good idea! It makes it worse. Babies cry and get sick...they are stressful, and thats just the tip of the ice burg. They are also expensive. But they are so worth it.
My advise is get to the root of the problem. Ever heard the song by Pink, "Reason". That is a great example.
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But thank you for your advice.