^Well, apparently, we're both idiots. I rented a room to my brother when I was in my 20's, for several years. I really had a problem with telling him "no" for some reason. It was during those years that he made the comments in regards to the abuse. And a few years after that my wife and I went on a vacation together with him, something I regret to this day.

I do sometimes look at the situation as one of character building. I took it. I didn't go crazy, I didn't cry... at the time, he didn't even know how much he upset me... and I really wasn't all that upset when it happened.. it was thinking about it later.. thinking about what kind of person he is, based on my experiences with him over the lifetime of our relationship. It's the sum total of all that he did over the years that really bothers me. Again, it was bad... but, I can handle it.... I did handle it.

Plus... no one deserves to be blamed for any sexual abuse they experienced as a child. And his comments in that regard are not to be taken lightly... I will not tolerate comments like his from anyone. period