I am not sure what to tell you. I think you will have to follow your heart on this one. But it is starting to sound like this is a relationship where you will always be arguing and he will always be very needy. Why doesn't he want to go over there with you if the family invited him and said he could come? Is there a job or something he is afraid to leave.? This is going to be entirely your decision dear. Do some soul-searching. You have to be comfortable with and live with the decision you make. An odd statement you made was that you love him, but you are functioning a lot better without him. Best of wishes to you dear.