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Originally Posted by waterknob1234
I am not sure what to tell you. I think you will have to follow your heart on this one. But it is starting to sound like this is a relationship where you will always be arguing and he will always be very needy. Why doesn't he want to go over there with you if the family invited him and said he could come? Is there a job or something he is afraid to leave.? This is going to be entirely your decision dear. Do some soul-searching. You have to be comfortable with and live with the decision you make. An odd statement you made was that you love him, but you are functioning a lot better without him. Best of wishes to you dear.
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Thanks, I think you're right. The thing is that I understand him and think he's a beautiful person - he's extremely sensitive, for better and worse. he doesn't want to come because it's not his thing (he's quite private and quiet and there are 3 kids here!) and he needs to save the money - and i'd rather that than he came and was a black cloud. he's not just upset he won't see me, he's more upset that I suggested it at all after he told me he was feeling afraid of abandonment. But I have to admit, regardless of how many excuses i make for him, regardless of how good the good times are, the bad times are awful and incapacitating.