I have a thing against dishes too. I hate them because, like you say, you work on it but it's never done. We have a large family and a teeny tiny sink so it's always overwhelming. That's why I take on other tasks and my husband usually does the dishes. It's a compromise. I think Cashart10 had a good point about mentioning to your husband how you're feeling and asking him for help.

How old is your son? I am very familiar with a sense of being paralyzed while you are at home with children. I used to be that way with dd1 before I was on meds. It's very difficult. How long have you felt like this?