He said, "No way!" huh!???
I know it sounds immature and vengeful, but at that, I would take off my wedding ring as well!
Your request to him to help you feel more secure was a valid one, and also telling him you are seeking counseling.
His responses sound like he is justifying his behavior by placing all the blame on you, and that is not a good situation for you.
Do you have children? If so, the circumstances are more complicated, I know, but if you are child free, I'd walk out on this jerk!
Patty