Gosh - I don't really have any suggestions on how to deal with someone who is being unreasonable.

First your the one with problem (according to him) - you tell him you going to seek counseling and he got mad at that?

Hum...which way does he want it - you going to get help or not. I'm not sure his couselor (God) would approve of such behavior

I'm just shaking my head...

Definately keep your plans on getting some counseling to help with the mind games he is playing at a minimum.

Your choice to stay or go. If you are going start saving for the retainer fee for an attorney. If you have it in savings already you'll need to do several things very quickly.

1. Set up an appointment with attorney
2. Go to another bank and open a checking with $100 and a safety deposit box for $50. Set up a P.O. Box with the post office so you have a location for confidential information to go to.
3. Not sure who takes of financies - if you do make a list and a copy of every single debt invoice and asset. (house appraisals, vehicle registartions) Basically you need to know everything. Put all the information in the safety deposit box. You may need to get any sentimental valued items out of the house also.
4. You will probably need 2,500 to 3,000 for a retainer fee for the attorney. If you have a house and have a line of credit - use it and then close down the line as well as all credit cards once you've used what you need.

I'm not a big fan of divorce and never thought I would consider it. It wasn't until I was in the hospital talking with a nurse that it dawned on me. We had been talking and she tried to sum up the conversation. Here question for me was, "So you see suicide as an option, and you don't see see divorce as an option." I think that is when it hit me.

It was a painful decision - if there is any hope in saving your marraige - do it.

There are more things you need to prepare for regarding a divorce. PM me anytime (I'm traveling Sat - Thur though). You may want to read "divorce for dummies" It gives a lot of what I learned