Stay in the present as much as you can, WCT74. It's a lifetime commitment, but you don't help yourself (in my experience) by thinking of it that way. Little bites, just
now, this event, this day, this 15 minutes.
Although I have many years sobriety now, I run for help anytime the thought of slipping into the bottle comes up. I always call my sponsor. Or PM someone here. Making it public that way makes me feel active and responsible--in the fighting stance, with someone knowing what I might be getting up to. I never assume I can talk myself out of it alone--that's too great a risk and often failed for me in the past.
I'm so happy for you and your wife. Keep on taking care.
roads