Well the thing about him is that I have told him some of my experiences and he always tells me that his are not the same and I need to shut up because I don't know how he is feeling. That my feelings are different. I'm also scared that he will think my depression was worse than his ever will be, because that is not the case. Any time I bring up wanting to help he tells me that he does not want help. It's extremely frustrating because I know he needs it but I want him to realize it himself, it's not my job yet all I want to do is be that person that gets him what he needs. You know? Just is a mess but I love him and I'm not planning on going anywhere, it's just beginning to hurt the relationship and more importantly he is hurting himself with the depression and holding in his thoughts. I'm really lost.
Thank you so much for that advice. I will try encouraging him to think about both sides of it... holding in your feelings and hurting, or finding a trustworthy person and getting yourself help. That is a very good idea, I agree that I could be that safe and non judgmental person. I just don't want to lose him over this, it could be very bad for both him and myself.