A mental health nurse who was treating me in the crisis team once said she didn't think I have bpd because I was nice and that she didn't usually like the patients that had bpd.

I told my counsellor about it and how it made me wonder if I wasn't nice but was able to hide it.

My counsellor said what you said In that people with BPD don't usually harm people and are actually loving and kind people who internalise anger and pain onto themselves, and would usually rather die than hurt others.

Any valid and professional research you ever read mentions that bpd sufferers are wrongly stigmatised and not violent or aggressive people, at least not because of bpd.

Yes I can get angry and lash out and I'm not a delicate wallflower but I am not aggressive or violent.

Also I notice that even on this forum everyone is kind and supportive; so I take that as a representation of people with BPD.