You know, I think your compromise is that you are living with an animal you are allergic to. Her compromise should be that you both keep the place as free of pet hair as possible and the dog sleeps in his/her own bed.

You are not being unreasonable. Telling her to take the dog to a shelter would be unreasonable. You are waking up in the middle of the night wheezing and she is looking for the dog? That's not right. Have you asked her why she wants to sleep with the dog instead of you? What does she even say?

I don't see how this has anything to do with BP. I'm hoping that you came up with that idea and not her -- because if she is going to whip out a medical excuse every time you disagree, that's going to be a problem--- you will lose every single argument. And that kind of behavior doesn't have anything to do with BP, either.

Are you guys getting your own place or would you be moving in with her mother as well? I'm glad you are thinking about this stuff before you move in. It is so much harder to break up when you are living with someone. If my boyfriend and I broke up, I would be very reluctant to live with someone else again unless I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with them -- in a rational/logical way as well as an emotional way.