look, this isn't "HER" fault. it's his fault. doing anything to her just takes energy and makes you look and feel foolish. she's worthless to you......it could be anyone and that doesn't matter.

your husband is the problem. a huge problem. you need to figure out what you're going to do for YOURSELF........don't worry about how he feels, looks, acts, etc. you're the one here who needs saving. i personally don't think he's worth the time of day, but i'm a survivor of being married to a cheater and i'm harsh about it.

take care of yourself. and your children. he can take care of his. you are demeaning yourself by putting up with his ********. and believe me, it's all ********.

pat