Thanks Lilypup... I very much appreciate the advice and your perspective from having to deal with your mom. I think I'm just so disappointed that this new T rushed to "two wrongs don't make a right... just call him" and didn't seem to grasp the amount of disappointment already in this relationship.

Thanks... and no, your comments about your mom don't sound cold at all to me. I get it, and I agree... you have to take care of yourself and your family.