thanks SecretGarden and Almedafan for your thoughts.

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you are confused or not sure what is going on so therefore the disconnect... TIme to reconnect

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I think that is it, SecretGarden. I am so ready to reconnect! I hope it will be possible in our next session.

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you need solid players in the journey I would think.

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I still think he is solid. I need to communicate better my confusion so he can clarify. His actions probably all make sense to him. That will be a goal of next session.

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Just an aside... Might you think of going to couples with yet a different therapist?

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Yes, as I mentioned up thread, for the second arena in which we might try couples counseling, T and I have identified a possible alternative therapist for this. The decision will be whether to use T or this other person for that or neither. (The decision I already made was not to use my T for the first context of couples counseling, in fact, to use no one for that, because that is what I believe is best for the situation.) The second context has completely different goals and it might be possible to have my T do it. Or he might be able to consult with the other T on it and then we would go to that person. I feel not ready to discuss this with T at our next session because there is so much else to discuss.

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Maybe Sunrise, he spoke to his lawyer and the lawyer made him back off.

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Interesting idea, Almedafan. I hadn't thought of that. Do T's consult with their lawyers on therapy practice? If not, maybe another therapist/psychologist colleauge? (At any rate, I know he hasn't spoken to my lawyer.)

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Does he get the impact this is having on you?

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Probably not, but that's my responsibility to let him know.

Thanks so much for all your advice and comments, everyone. It was great to come back to them all after my time away.

Alex, I look back on what I posted to you and although much of what you suggested didn't apply to me, it was actually helpful to read what you wrote and be able to know with certainty that at least those were not the issues at hand, so I could focus on what was. If that makes sense...

Wow, I sure have a lot for my next session.