Dear Love&Toil:

re: He always agrees but then nothing changes.
>> Have you considered marriage counseling to settle what I see as some uncomfortable and troubling issues between you and your DH that will affect your kids attitudes and behavior. IMO, parents (I'm not a parent) need to be HAPPILY united in their behavior, beliefs and parenting so the kids can respond without confusion, conflict or fear. As a child, I was often extremely aware that my parents were NOT in harmony or agreement and it made me feel very frightened and unhappy (they were frightening adults - especially dad!) There were serious differences between them and it affected us kids dramatically even if they never saw it or cared about it.
Good luck,
jim