There wasn't really enough space in my house for my own stuff, so when he moved in, there really wasn't enough space. I threw out a lot and so did he -- but we both need to do more. I just get aggravated when I feel like I am throwing out my stuff but he is not doing the same with his.

I also just find it moderately insulting that he is keeping junky pots and pans in the basement in case we break up. Dude, it's been six years. Buy new pots when and if it happens!

I also have totes of stuff from when I was a kid --- and all my papers from high school and college (guess how many times I've looked at them). Most of my hard to get rid of stuff is aspirational clutter, projects that I want to do on a someday that never comes. I also have a lot of trouble getting rid of furniture.

You should go through your totes -- we went through one of his last night -- it had various glass jars he had saved (pasta sauce, herbs)! We also found some neat dishes and things he forgot he owned