in the parenting program I teach consequences have to be logically connected to the misbehavior for them to work. time outs typically are not connected to misbehavior. if you put a child in time out for being destructive with their toys, they are not going to learn how to play well with their toys because the two are not logically connected. but if you take away the toys every time the child becomes destructive with them, they will learn they only get to play with their toys if theyplay nice. so putting her in time out for not asking to go outside isn't logically connected. not letting her go out next time she asks is. you have either/or consequences and when/then consequences....either you give me the behavior I want or you will get the consequences....when you give me the behavior I want, then you get what you want.... so you tell her when you ask to go outside, then you will be able to go play. when you clean your room, we will read a story. when you finish your bath, we can watch tv. either/or works much the same way. either you stop throwing a temper tantrum or you can go to your room. either you eat your food appropriately or you will have it taken away. either you clean your toys up or you will lose them. in both cases you are giving the child a choice between two things. they get to choose what they want to do. be firm and calm. enforce the consequence the first time you say it. consistency is the most important thing if you want the child to start doing what they are told. good luck and take care.