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ToeJam · Aug 15, 2014, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Frankbtl

Hi TJ, you already know I understand the scared bit

and without a doubt, here for you!!
But just a thought..............it's going to be quite a change being home (in some good ways as well but.....) so do you think you can write down some of the things the hospital has given you and build them in as far as you can/as is comfortable at home.
I'm thinking structure as a basic one.............maybe try to have some planning to your days (I mean even keep mealtimes etc the same as they are now when you're home if it helps!!).
Although give yourself the same kind of "rest" as there, don't go trying to throw yourself into everything at once!!!!

It's given you points of contact like talking to the nurses.............maybe build something like that into home e.g. regular phone calls or talks with your wife or friend.
It's given you some safety...........maybe look at how you can remove some items from your home...........like you pointed out the- was it a small knife?- to your wife on one visit. At least until you've settled back into home a little.
Well you get the idea....................

And maybe look at reducing what you know might be triggers when you get home e.g. things you feel you should be coping with/doing but aren't quite ready to do yet.
And got a list yet (

).........a list of things you're going to be doing/trying if you're feeling/start feeling............if you want to.........?? And I hope talking to us is going to be on there somewhere!!!

But keep up with the talking about things, hey?? It might well be hard at times to start with, so remind yourself you deserve all the support there is.

Alison

A lot to absorb there Alison but some very valid points. Going to try and take it slow but like you said, develop a routine. As an outpatient, I'm going to try and throw myself into the activities I can partake in which include creative writing and pottery. There is also a college for recovery at this hospital with courses for self help and a better understanding of mh and how to manage so will be looking at that as well.

As for home, that could be trickier... as a unit, my wife and I are a little unstructured to say the least which (baring in mind her profession as a teacher... and is essentially working even when at home) means meals are often missed if my depression hits hard. This is not her fault... just the way it is... and with us tightening our belts due to uncertainty with my work... we're going to have to look at the practicalities of the future.

Part of this may be me forcing structure myself... doing what I can to make things easier for her... preparing meals if not cooking (I am a lousy cook) while at home and such like... to try and not fall into bad habits or just stare into space.

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Originally Posted by Rohag

Discharge... Hope and fear...

I look forward to your ripening impressions of your time in the ward as your hospitalisation recedes farther and farther into the past.

Wishing you strength for this coming week and especially for the weeks after discharge!

Thanks mate, I've appreciated your support over the whole duration of my time on these boards and your private messages. Going to see what happens after Thursday.. will be a time for reflection and working out the 'what next' I guess.