I'm writing this here because my mother was a child when her older teenage brother committed suicide by gun. She never talks about him, and I am afraid to ask her about him, especially now when our relationship is pretty tense. I live at home with her, postgrad, and am sick of being home and I think that just exacerbates the relationship...
Anyway, I want to know more about her brother, the way she feels about what happened, and how her family reacted (or hushed up). I have felt myself too often what he must have felt in the weeks or days leading up to his death. I, unlike him, have received therapy as well as other kinds of care for this, and my family is aware of my depression, as well as our family's bipolar genes.
Despite all of this, I still cannot get answers about him. I want to know if some of my problems relating to my mom have to do with her pain over the suicide, or the way her mother treated her afterwards. I want to know who he was besides this victim of unrepentant sadness. I recently found a blog post about him, written by a former school peer, and had the strong urge to contact him and ask about my absent never-to-be uncle. Should I contact this stranger? *I apologize if I don't respond right away...I don't always check for responses...sometimes I just write for the need to feel heard. That said, I greatly appreciate readers and commenters**
Last edited by darkpurplesecrets; Aug 16, 2014 at 11:53 AM.
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